What are the biggest decisions that you have made in your life? Have you ever tried flipping a coin so you can arrive at a decision?
You are probably aware that your concerns (big or small) today are results or consequences of the decisions you have made in the past. If not, then let me break it down to you. Habits are formed because you DECIDE to do things over and over again until your brain is working less and less. Some research says, habits are formed after 21 days of doing the same thing over and over again. The result of that becomes your routine.
Maybe you decided to browse the internet late at night until it becomes your routine eventually. Or you always decide to snooze your alarm clock so that tapping it off and getting back to sleep is your routine every morning. Whatever that is, you decided to do it the first time, second time, third, fourth… until it becomes just another ordinary routine.
On Decisions and Spaceships
Did you know that if the Apollo spaceship were off course by such a small amount as 1 degree, they would have missed the moon and would have been sent off into deep space? This is true for the return trip also that they can miss Earth even for that small degree of being away from its course.
Even the simplest decision that we make can potentially be the reason of the big decisions we will do in the future.
There are hundreds of moments every week when we make these seemingly small but eventually significant decisions. – Wellbeing (Rath, Harter)
The big issues that you face today are because of the simple decisions that you thought are way too small to even think about.
Most alcoholics and chain smokers started to try just 1 glass of cold beer and 1 stick of a cigarette, respectively. It is an easy toss of a coin – to sip or not to sip and/or to smoke or not to smoke.
So when you are about to toss that coin to risk your decision to chance, you better be ready to face the consequences.
How then should you decide?
Be deliberate and take action
Being deliberate means you to do it consciously and intentionally.
It means that you are reverse engineering the bad habit by forming new habits for 21 days and hopefully will continue to sustain it. There is no better time to start it than NOW. Act on it.
Look for accountability partner who will remind you to choose well and choose right. Your accountability partner should be someone whom you trust and preferably a person who is not struggling with the same bad habit as you are.
Look for opportunity
Every decision is an opportunity. Every opportunity that you take is either for others to be inspired or for you to wallow in the same path. You want to change bad routines so that your life can be a better testimony.
Look for an opportunity not only for you to change but also to be an influence to other people.
Your decision to respect other people’s time by being early to meetings or events for example will make other people model you for it. When you exercise and invite others with you will help you and others to have a healthy lifestyle.
Forming good habit is an opportunity for you to outdo yourself and to develop perseverance.
Ask direction from God
Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths. -Proverbs 3:5-6
You have to remember that you can ask God to let Him direct your life. If your issue is a bad habit, pray for God’s grace to help you decide to start changing it.
God gives this encouragement to those who seek His will and follow His way: “I will never leave you nor forsake you.’ So we may boldly say: ‘The Lord is my helper; I will not fear. What can man do to me?” -Hebrews 13:5-6
Ultimately, you will only be successful when all the decisions that you do are anchored with the leading of God. When you understand that this is important then you will decide to do it intentionally.
I encourage you that as He points an issue in your heart today. Pray. Think of the people around you who can help you. Message them and ask for help. Experience a whole new you with a changed mindset in making decisions.
No small decisions should rule over you and your future.
WRITTEN BY: JUNVER ARCAYNA