Yev, do you have a girlfriend?
Ever since I became a teenager, I have been asked this question so many times. And everyone who asked received the same answer,
No, I never had one.
This may come as something bizarre for some, because these days, most teenagers cannot live their lives without having someone to be in a relationship with. Most teenagers enter relationships because of peer pressure, because they feel like having one, or because they feel like they need to.
For people who asked me this question, it is common that they would ask me this question next: “Why?”
Some might think it’s because I’m ‘torpe’. Some even thought that I was gay. But no. I never had a girlfriend. And doesn’t plan to have one at least for the next 3-5 years because…
IT’S NOT MY TIME YET
God designed marriage, not dating. So I always keep in my mind that when I date a girl, my intention would be to marry her. Besides, patience is a virtue. I know it’s not my season to marry, so I just need to wait. I am enjoying what is on my plate right now, and I must not put anything I know I can’t eat nor enjoy.
For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope. – Jeremiah 29:11
As long as we are living in this world, everything is a matter of faith. Even with our relationships, we must trust God that He has great plans for it. He wills for us to be joyful, but we should also watch out if that joy still honors Him or not.
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GOD WANTS ME TO GUARD MY HEART
Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.
Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life. – Proverbs 4:23
If I enter a relationship right now, I know for sure that it is headed to downfall and heartbreak. I don’t want that. More importantly, God doesn’t want that either. What God wants is to guard my heart until He tells me that I am ready to enter a relationship that honors Him.
I AM A MAN, NOT A BOY
Boys break hearts. Men protect and guard it.
When God called me to be a man, I am called to lead, protect, and provide. It is not leadership if I am the first one to disobey my God. It is not protection if I am the one to break the heart of the person I will enter a relationship with. And it is not provision if I don’t have anything to provide for our relationship.
To Man up, I need to trust God first above all else. And believe that He will give me the perfect woman to marry in His own perfect time.
He has made everything beautiful in its time. Also, he has put eternity into man’s heart, yet so that he cannot find out what God has done from the beginning to the end. – Ecclesiastes 3
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God is a relational God. He values and honors relationship. We, as bearers of His image, we must also value and honor relationships. When we wait for God’s signal, not only did we protect our hearts from breaking, but we also showed God that we honor His name and that we trust Him for His perfect timing.
WRITTEN BY: YEV MONARQUIA